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Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Leave it all Behind

A few weeks ago, on the drive home from work, a question was posed on the radio to the listening audience:
Would you trade the person you love for complete freedom? You would have no worries. You're free to travel wherever you want in the world as many times as you'd like. Money would be no object, work would be no more, etc. The only catch is that you can't fall in love.
As I cruised down Lake Shore Drive, I pondered the possibilities. Knowing me and my emotional self, I wondered if I could handle a life with no real intimacy. Of course, all my other needs would be met. My '94 Nissan Altima, which I'm extremely thankful for, would be replaced with a sleek brand new something. I would have all the material things I could ever dream of having. Even my cliched Brooklyn brownstone (word to Sidney Shaw) would be a reality.

When I asked the question to the group of friends I met up with, a few shouted an eager, "Hell yea!" My attempt at starting some kind of friendly debate failed because no one could give me a real reason as to why they'd choose freedom over love. Not to say there is a right or wrong answer--I just wanted to hear the different views.

Has the beauty of love lost it's luster? Do we really live in a world where people are willing to go through life without it in lieu of financial security?

I wanted to go home and write about this immediately but I decided against it, opting to give the question more thought. I wanted to be sure that I was considering all of the possibilities that could come out of me trading in a life of love for material possessions.

If you know me, you know I'm a lover. My best friend thinks I'm an asshole (lol) but, deep down, she knows I'm soft as hell. To imagine a life without love and still manage being happy is almost impossible for me to do. As much as I would love to travel the world over and over again, I would much rather experience the emotions felt when learning to grow with another person.

What about you? Would you trade love for everything?


  1. Girl hell naw I wouldn't trade love for freedom. I've always wanted to trave l and be financially free. But I could never trade hubby in for that. He's not just my husband and lover; he's my confidant and bestfriend. There's no way all of that freedom could ever be filled by anything else. God created us to love and be loved. Those people who said yea they could trade it couldn't have possibly met their mate, cause IIguarantee they'd be singing another song. I think all of us desire to feel that connection with one other person. Just sometimes it gets buried under the hurt and disappointments. I wouldn't want to experience traveling financial freedom without my husband. I think after a while it'd get lonely.

  2. I totally agree with you. I'm such a romantic, it's ridiculous lol During the time the question was posed, I tried very hard to put myself in both scenarios and it just didn't seem natural for me...